The period after a divorce is one of transition, with both parties adjusting to the new family structure and most likely, new financial reality. Change is never easy, so here are seven things you can do, to help your children after divorce.
Speak to a Children Law Solicitor
If during the divorce, you and your spouse are having difficulty deciding your children’s living arrangements, a Children Law Solicitor can help you with negotiating arrangements for the children. If negotiations are unsuccessful your Children Law Solicitor can also help you by referring you to Family Mediation or by applying to the Court for a Child Arrangement Order. This is an application to the Court to help decide your child’s living arrangements.
Do Not Criticise the other Parent in front of Children
Depending on how the divorce went, emotions might run high for a while. And as tempting as it is, remember that your ex-spouse is still their parent, so be cordial to each other in and out of each other’s presence.
Find a Support Group for Yourself
Do not be afraid to ask for help when you need it – you’re human, after all. To see a list of divorce support groups please click here.
Make Sure Children Have a Routine
In as much as possible, the children should have the same routine with both parents, even if they live in separate houses. This sends out a consistent message to the children that, although their parents are no longer together, certain elements of their lives remain the same, thus making them feel more stable.
Encourage Children to Talk about Their Feelings
Children can be incredibly sensitive. If they see or sense that you will get upset when they talk about their other parent, they may bottle up their own feelings, which is unhealthy for their wellbeing.
Encourage and reassure them that it’s fine for them to talk about their feelings.
Develop New Traditions
A divorce is also a time for new beginnings, so why don’t you develop new traditions and rituals to make your children feel even more special?
Make Time for Yourself
In the midst of attending to your own needs, it can be easy to neglect yourself. Remember this; if you cannot take care of yourself, you cannot take care of your children. So try and take some time out for yourself.
Divorce is never easy, but with the right steps, it can be easier for you and your children.
For initial legal advice call our Children Law Solicitors on 03306069626 or contact us online and we will help you.