On the first working Monday after the New Year, Divorce Lawyers across England and Wales tend to see a spike in divorce applications. For this reason, this day has been dubbed as 'divorce day.' We look at the reasons behind this and offer some guidance on how to cope if you're in this situation.
Christmas is widely recognised as a time for coming together, so it may come as a surprise to many that the festive period is so closely linked to relationship breakdown. There are a number of theories as to why so many couples begin their divorce proceedings in early January.
For some, it may be that they already knew their relationship was over, but they wanted to get through one last Christmas together, possibly for the sake of their children or for their families. Or it may simply be that there's already so much to worry about over Christmas that they don't want to add a breakup into the mix. For others, Christmas can be a very stressful time, which could add additional strain to an already struggling marriage. The financial pressure of Christmas combined with the stress of hosting (or visiting) relatives, as well as the intense amount of time spent together, can push some couples to breaking point.
At the beginning of the New Year, we all tend to take stock and evaluate. We assess what we're happy with and what we're not happy with, and think of ways in which we can make a change for the better. For some, this will lead to a decision to leave an unhappy marriage and start afresh.
Coping with Divorce
Whatever has led to this point, divorce can be incredibly stressful for everyone involved, often turning whole worlds upside down. As well as the emotional turmoil, there are a lot of logistical matters that need to be dealt with, such as the legalities of the divorce as well as financial matters, living arrangements and possibly child custody arrangements too.
While it may be easier said than done, if you find yourself in this situation it's important to remember to look after yourself, both physically and emotionally. Try to leave the negativity behind as you start your new life and instead look to what the future holds.
By taking control of the situation, you can begin to map out your own path. Consider taking up a new hobby or simply get out and spend time with old friends to take your mind off things. If you're suffering emotionally, make sure that you allow yourself time to grieve and time to come to terms with your emotions. But also don't be afraid to seek help from a qualified professional if you're concerned about your mental wellbeing.
Having supportive friends and family around you at this time will also be incredibly valuable. Make sure that you have a strong support network around you who can provide you with a listening ear when you need it and who can also offer objective advice and guidance.
Professional Legal Support during Divorce
A Divorce Solicitor can lessen the burden of divorce by supporting you through the legal process of divorce, explaining each step of the process and providing advice and guidance throughout. Our Divorce Solicitors can talk you through your options and provide you with clear guidance on the best way forward.